Do you have a beard fetish?

Happy Easter lovely people,

This post came out of something that has been marinating in my mind for a while. Thankfully Easter gives me a perfect opportunity to talk about it. You’re probably wondering what Easter has got to do with beards. Jesus! That’s what.

I was watching an easter movie on good friday and I wondered why all the actors who ever acted as Jesus had beards. Continue reading

Winner Announcement- Afromissie giveaway

Hello Everyone,

I’m happy the giveaway has ended and there is a winner now. Its coily head of hair’s Nafisah. Congratulations!!!

The selection of the winner was automated and randomly selected.She has been contacted and has recieved the voucher. She has also spent it.

Stay tuned for more giveaways on the blog soon.

P.s. Naturals in the city 12 is this weekend. Its a natural hair and health meet up that holds quarterly.
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This one promises to be loads of fun as there would be free make up bag audits for the first 10 people, make up talk, fitness education and other activity tables. Oh i didn’t mention there’s yummy healthy food selections from kitchen butterfly.
You also get to meet lots of naturalistas and hair ogle for free! It would take place at Social place, Victoria Island at 1pm. Gate fee is 500 naira. Bring a friend or squad along.
I hope to see you there.

Imisiayo.

First giveaway !!!

Hi everyone,
Its our first giveaway! Whoop! whoop!!. I’m plenty excited.
I noticed many people visit the blog, read and go without comments. Dia ris God. Thanks to those people who do. I’m really grateful. This time I decided I won’t let it be so. Hold thy comments no longer. Its giveaway time!!!
This month is National sickle cell awareness month and I have volunteered to help create awareness. I recently discovered that Nigeria has one of the highest population of people living with sickle cell disorder. The prevalence of sickle cell disease in Nigeria is 20 per 1000 births totalling to 150,000 births annually. Research has shown that about 40 million Nigerians are carriers of the sickle cell gene. I happen to be one of the 40 million.
What is Sickle cell?
This is a group of inherited red blood cell disorder that affects haemoglobin. Haemoglobin is a protein in red blood cell that carries oxygen throughout the body. People with sickle cell disease have abnormal haemoglobin that distorts the red blood cell into a sickle or crescent shape. Thus the name Sickle cell disease.
Those with the disease suffer a higher frequency of illness and premature deaths. The condition also causes heart attacks, kidney failure, severe infections and sudden death.
The need for genetic counselling before marriage cannot be overstressed. Know your genotype and that of your partner before you tie the knot.
Genotypes: AA: Not a carrier and can pair with other genotypes.
AS: Carrier and should not pair with another carrier.
SS: Has the disease and should NOT pair with a carrier or anybody with the disease.

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Kebbi state recorded 66,835 patients with SCD(Sickle cell disease) in 2014. That’s a lot. All states have records of people dying of SCD. Most SCD patients die under 5 years old and some do not mature into old age.
While serving, my roommate lost her life after the three weeks camp. She had SCD and I don’t know why she stayed through out the camp but there were rumours that she was not sincere with her genotype during registration. I cannot fathom the amount of pain her family and loved ones must have passed through at that time but I’m sure it was heart wrenching. I didn’t know her too well yet it made me feel very bad. SCD comes with a lot of pain, expenses, heartaches and pain.
There is unfortunately no cure for sickle cell anaemia. The best we can do is to make sure people around us know about the severity of the disease and break the cycle.

One would think that having the disorder was more than enough but some hospitals administer narcotics on patients who do not need such hard drugs.
I know a sickle cell patient who is bent over from self administration of hard drugs on herself after discovering what her doctors used to administer to her. She’s past 40 and I’m grateful to God for keeping her but not many people are still alive to tell their story.

Help us create awareness about Sickle cell and one person wins 5000 naira voucher to use on Jumia at check out. You have to lend a helping hand to raise awareness about SCD. Fair right?
How to enter.
1.) Follow the blog
2.) Click HERE to mark your entries.
Please note that performing 1 out of the 2 does not qualify you for the voucher. It is mandatory that you perform both requirements.
The giveaway lasts for one week from 13th September to 20th September 2015 and the winner would be selected on 21st of September.
I wish you the best.

Let’s chew over August!

Hello peoples!
Happy “ember” month to you. I’m more excited the year is running… Yes, running to an end. The memories of Christmas last year are still fresh and a new one will soon be here.
When August came, i was very happy. I knew it was going to be an exciting month. It’s over now and I decided to add a new post segment to the blog to talk about how the previous month went. Thus “Chew over ……………” . I was going to call it “August’s musings ” but decided it was too just there. I searched for synonyms of musings and saw a few nice words like ponder over, reminisce, ruminate- I don’t like this one though. Cows ruminate. I finally chose chew over. It appeals to me in a funny way. You could let me know what you think about the title in the comments box.
Here is what I was up to in August.

1. Part time Salon experience: I had a lot of free time because work period was reduced by a few hours temporarily. I decided to volunteer my service at a family friend’s salon and before you ask if it was for free. Yeah. I did charity in August. That’s how it looked but I was gathering knowledge and perfecting my hair making skills. I’ll tell you why soon.
My experience there was insightful and scary. I was shocked most of the time. One time a lady came to make her hair and she had didi on. She wanted to braid her hair with Xpression extensions into tiny twists. Feathers precisely. I offered to help loosen her hair and noticed it was a bit wet, greasy and messy. When we were done loosening, I asked if she would wash her hair and she said she had already washed in shower. I looked at this lady in shock. “Say what?” . While I was loosening,she had said she would carry the new hair do for 2 or 3 months and she wont apply any hair cream through out because it makes her scalp itch. Everything in me was screaming “Madam what in God’s name are you saying?”. You won’t wash your greasy dirty hair( I don’t know what she even used to wash the hair), you won’t moisturise your hair for 3 months and you expect the hair to grow by then. I would have advised her better. I was itching to. But the salon owner said i should not say anything through eye contact. Who was I to talk? I felt sorry for the lady because she didn’t know better and her stylist would not say the truth. She didn’t want me to touch her hair because she had not seen me before and wanted only professional touch. She was also complaining about everything. Who told her I wasn’t an expert? Long story short, I realised Nigerian women need hair grooming education. It is too important. Especially at the grassroot. It hurts to see people treat their hair without self respect. Salon stylists I hail! Not all of them should be allowed to handle hair. Most of them are ignorant and wicked too. You ask a lady “What happened to your hairline? its all gone!”. There is a 75% certainty she’ll say its her stylist.
In lieu of my observations and passion for hair, I have decided I would have my own salon  and it would be a natural hair salon. I’m working on it and my writing it here is my way of disciplining myself to be focused. There are glitches right now and a lot I have to learn but I would do it.
I started making other people’s hair. I have been making my own hair for so long and a few friends’ hair here and there. I crotcheted my friend Amaka’s hair with yarn for the first time and it was good. It took a long time too because I was doing it alone.

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I made some others too.
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More pictures would come as I progress. Sadly it isn’t commensurate with money but I’m learning a lot and getting better than I used to be.

2. The Piano: I started to learn how to play the piano. That is one thing crossed off my lifetime bucket list. Learn a musical instrument ✔. There is also nothing sexier than a lady playing the Piano. Its very difficult and I get frustrated trying to control my left and right fingers at the same time. But I’ll get there.
3. I wrote a poem: I got to cross one more thing off my to do list. Write a poem. Let me say I’ve tried to do this for so long I’ve forgotten why I decided to try. it being difficult is why it made my list. A friend called Ayomitide who is a gospel Poet compelled me and I eventually wrote something. Its a Christian poem that talks about God’s love. Maybe that’s why the inspiration came.

GOD’S LOVE. THE GREATEST

It is said that God is love
But what really is love
In 1st Corinthians, Love is kind
Love is Patient, Love is tolerant
Love remembers no wrong
Love trusts and suffers long
Love never loses hope and doesn’t quit.

With flesh I have tried to love
In flesh I have failed in love
Until I knew him who is love
How could He give his life for me
He didn’t even know me
Not losing hope he sent his son to die
That you and I might be saved

I have sinned and I have fallen
I came to the world a sinner
Yet while we were sinners
God gave up himself for us
Ain’t no love bigger than this
To the world love is care
But God’s love is pure

God’s love is perfect, inexhaustible
God’s love is giving, overflowing
God’s love never needs, helps and never murmurs
God’s love does not fail and endures forever
Now in all these, God’s love is greatest.

-Imisiayo

Its my fair attempt and I like it.

4. My hair revolted: This hair I gave life, care, time and everything to. The day I discovered, I almost cut everything off. I was completely disgusted and perplexed. The only reason I didn’t cut it is because I have decided I want to have long natural hair on my wedding day. Mind you, I don’t know when that is, so we keep working. I had scalp scabs. Whatever it was, Dandruff, Psoriasis, bla bla bla…. I hated it. I couldn’t bear to look at my hair and  wore scarves for 3 days until I had to wash.

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I have no definite conclusion on what caused it but there are a few suspects and a strong feeling it is because of the left over Avocado in my hair from my last diy protein treatment. I resolve never to try it again. I must have created a nourishing  environment for microbes.
I had to change my wash regimen to a weekly wash instead of the normal two weeks, I stopped using shampoo and switched to black soap. Most of it is gone now without doing anything special. I planned a henna treatment but I’m not sure I’ll do that now. I have enough on my plate with this weekly wash thing. I’m not mentally prepared to add a henna treatment that would take at least 5 hours of my weekend.

5. I read a book:

unnamed (9) This book was uh-maazing! it was an audiobook on Audible and was narrated by the author Marquetta Breslin. It was really eye opening. Here are a few things i got from the book

Your success has nothing to do with hair. It has everything to do with your power and your belief. You get what you believe you deserve. You resell what you believe about your value to the world.

Clients are buying feeling. How they feel, a better look, transformation and emotional feeling.

Being awesome with hair isnt all that is needed. Be good at what you do but the goal is mastery.

As a stylist, you create a profound impact in people’s life. Become an expert communicator. Listening to your clients and their feelings is Gold. Make it clear that you get them.

At a point I stopped to ask myself Stylist  or Shrink?  But after reading i understood better. I’ll definitely be putting the insights into good use.

6. I had bomb flat twist out!: Flat twist outs have never been my turf. The first time i tried it with perm rods, it was a fail.
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Day 2 looked just like chunky twist outs.

It  didnt turn out the way i wanted it to and that was when i discovered the scalp scabs. Nevertheless, i tried again very determined to get better curl definition and i did. The gods of curl definition decided to smile on me. A very big smile it was.
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Some people mistook it for a weave


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Now that flat twist out is conquered, i have been eyeing the maximum hydration method and the wash and go. Haha! One at a time though.

Thats about it for August. I’m hoping September is better for me and you too.

P.S.: A friend tried the twist out after following the tutorial from the last post and this is what she got.
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I was mighty impressed by her results. Proud too. I’m gonna be putting more tutorials henceforth.

P.P.S: Naturals in the city 12 is this month. Whoop! Whoop! Leylarh Cadne who is a make up artist and my friend( shamefully famzing) will be auditing make up bags for free! She’ll check out your make up purse and tell you what’s right, what isn’t and what is better. Just for 10 people.
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There would also be talks about natural hair and health plus activity tables. Its awesome right? If i dont make it to this meet up then i know some very strong people are behind it. You shouldn’t miss it too.

Until next time,
Imisiayo.

My twist outs.

Hi beautiful!
I had an epiphany while writing my last post. My Nappyversary was a month ago and I didn’t know. My journey to become natural has too many dates I didn’t know which to mark. Whether it was the day I had my last relaxer, day of my BC and my final trim when I cut off about 2 inches off my hair. Since Nappyversary is the day I became fully natural, I guess that would be my final trim, So happy nappyversary to me in arrears.

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I have not done a length check but I like the length of my hair right now. I couldn’t have asked for better. My only issue is my hairline. I’ve accepted it the way it is though but I try not to damage it further.

Anybody who knows me, would know my go to style is a Twist out. I carry my hair in twists for a week, a twist out for the second then I wash my hair. I love twist outs. The curl pattern is lovely, its a low manipulation protective style and it gets better with time.
In response to the requests i’ve been getting, i’m gonna share my twist out life span for last week from scratch.
I washed my hair on Saturday, I did a protein deep condition with avocado, egg, lemon, conditioner, olive oil and coconut oil. My hair probably liked it but I won’t repeat it again.

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After my wash, I had leftover avocado in my hair. Tried to get it out to no avail. I even dipped my whole head in a bucket of water and it still didn’t come off. The crazy things I’ve done for this hair ehn.
So i eventually twisted my damp hair after applying Cantu Shea butter leave in conditioner. I twisted with a styling cream and Jbco.

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I would normally make small twists but I decided to make larger ones to save time.

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The next day I loosened the twists.

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Step 1: I unraveled the twists with olive oil in my hands.

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Step 2: I separated each strand into smaller pieces with my oily fingers to reduce frizz.

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Step 3: Picked the roots with a comb to lift the twist out and cover the scalp lines.

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The twist out of day 1 was good, I had defined curls but the ends were my problem. They looked a little rough. I’m not really sure if they are supposed to look that way but I’m sure i’ve gotten the hang of it to about 65%. That’s because I feel I need to improve in certain areas like 100% curl definition, shrinkage and frizz.
At night I put my hair in a satin bonnet before going to bed. Some people retwist everything at night but not me. I try that and my hair looks like Medusa’s the next day.

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I woke my hair up my fluffing and picked the roots again. I still had length by the next day and my ends had just started to wake up. The curls had begun to change and frizz.

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I decided to moisturise by day 3 and my hair shrunk to a twa. Frizz was a lot but I liked the curl definition and my ends were better.

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On day 4 I separated more strands and put it in a side swept puff with bobby pins.

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By day 5 my hair was fierce!! I was so proud.
My twist outs look better with time and they definitely age well. By the end of day 5, i had to detangle!  I’m always afraid of combing out my twist outs so I usually finger detangle by separating each hair strand one after the other. I put the hair in 4 sections and detangled. This way I prevent hair loss.
Some people ask me if they could twist out on relaxed hair and my answer is yes. It just won’t look the same. If I was relaxed, I would preferably twist my hair and curl with rollers or perm rods overnight.

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I personally think this is too boring. Life is too short for boring hair.
More tips on defined twist outs:
Roll the ends of your fingertips around your finger if it unravels before time.
Seal the ends of your twist with Shea butter or a carrier oil to prevent moisture loss and breakage.
Use oily hands to separate your twists. This adds shine and prevents frizz.
Moisturise your edges often.
The longer you keep your twists, the more defined the twist outs would be.
Keep trying.

Imisiayo.