You are about to begin reading my story. No! Not my biography. Not yet. This is a story about my hair journey 😀 Since i started this blog with a lifestyle post, this might be a turn off for certain people(This is me putting up a disclaimer notice). Still i am proud to share this story and continue this journey with you. I used to have relaxed long hair that got lots of compliments, flattery, put envy somewhere in that category. Twas beautiful but i hated that it hurt like crazy and the growth was stagnant. While growing up, i used to dread the salon, nobody could comb or touch my hair. I stopped crying while they made my hair in secondary school only because i was becoming a big girl and other girls weren’t crying. Fine girl is not easy at all #=-S
My love for natural hair was at first sight. I researched more and decided to do the long term transition. After many transition attempts and hello relaxer, my last perm was in November 2013 during my service year. The transition process was a sloooow and long one even though it was just 7 months. Months 5&6 were the worst! I already had coils below and i just hated my straight hair. What kept me going was the strong support in the natural hair community. A lot of ladies had been there, done it and had motivational stories for the newbies like us. I’ve always loved playing with my hair since my relaxer days so i started experimenting with styles on my mixed textures
I eventually cut off all my relaxed hair in June 2014. I had to cut it some more 2 weeks later when i noticed the ends weren’t just right. They were straight and my twists were always unraveling.
My goal is not just to have long hair but hair that is healthy. Having long hair would be a plus. I’ve also realized that a healthy body reflects on the hair. Many people would wonder “why so much concentration on the hair?” Its a part of me, it’s me. Its my pride. Even the Bible says so. I think its really brave of all curly, coily, kinky haired ladies out there who have accepted their natural hair type as black women despite the expectations of this society to have sleek, pressed straight relaxed hair .I’m not saying relaxed hair isn’t good. But do i have to blend in?
I have really thick, coarse, kinky hair and i love it. I wouldnt change anything if i could.
Relaxed or Natural. There is no flaw in you. Cheerios!
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This is great and also have to confess that i had no idea all along.
It is highly recommendable.
Thank you very much. Please do recommend.
Nice write up,i luv d hair u made in d last pics,i wud luv to try d style on my hair.
Thank you! You should try it.
Straight talk… Speak on Imisi…
In my opinion as a guy, I believe what gives expression to the shape to a ladies face is her hair-do. I can quite remember my mum losing some of her hair strands after she relaxed it.
So my question is; Does natural hair prevent this loss, reduce or ensures a zero loss of hair strand?
You’re right. But being natural doesn’t ensure zero hair loss. Relaxed or Natural, we lose hair. The best way to reduce hair loss is by healthy hair habits. I’ll definitely talk about that soon. Thank you.
Tho I’m nt a grate fan of girlie talks…bt nice
story anyways…grate pix too
Thank you Clenn! You should know that girlie talks are quite interesting.
Nice hair story, everyone says I have the perfect hair. They’ll gush over it and say ‘if I had hair like yours, I’ll just relax and style it, no braids, no extensions. I don’t pay much attention to my hair, it takes care of itself. Now, God forbid that I cut my hair, so Imisi Kudos to you, the hair suits you. I love the last picture. And, can I make my hair like that, but a long one. Let me know.
Thanks dear. Reminds me of my hair before. People can wish! If u want more from your hair, you should put more care. The hairstyle is a twist out. You can do it. Only it won’t be the same on relaxed hair. I av a picture in the post with me on twist out in relaxed hair. I rocked it a lot during my service year. Please let me know if u try it.
Imisi, your attempt to reply means a lot. Lol. Thank you so much.
Okay, this is all very technical for me. Arrrrgh!
Still, I’m glad you found some resolve to follow things through.
You look good – relaxed or not.